You know how when Sheeba told you about her new job, you felt a little envious?
What you don’t know is that all she wanted was to stay at home with her 3 month old, but because money is tight she has to work.
You know how you thought some people have all the luck when you saw Prisha- confident, put together, wealthy, has it all?
What you don’t know is that she deals with crippling anxiety issues.
You know how you looked at Dilip and thought,” How irresponsible can a guy get? ” because he always went riding every weekend rather than stay home with his family or study.
What you don’t know is that riding was his escape. He just couldn’t take his parents fighting anymore.
You know how you looked at Shanaya and her husband’s holidays pictures and thought,
” Well, it’s so easy to just pack up and take off when you don’t have kids”
What you don’t know if that her husband and she took this holiday after yet another IVF attempt failed.
You know how you looked at Manisha’s smiling pictures on FB and thought her constant cheery face could be a little annoying?
What you don’t know is behind that cheery facade is someone struggling with depression.
You know how you judged Dimple’s capability as a mom did have it all when she told you about that promotion at work?
What you don’t know is that she’s dealing with an unsupportive husband and handling it all while trying to keep her dreams alive.
You know how you saw Tanay’s Audi and thought,” Well, the man sure does get paid.”?
What you don’t know is how that stressful job has screwed his health over.
You know how you looked at a fellow mom at school and felt thought that she was so strong and confident and popular?
What you don’t know if that she’s struggling with a bad marriage working doubly hard to make sure her child is alright and making sure her unhappiness is not fodder for gossip.
Sometimes, there may not be any back story behind the happiness. They may be supremely confident, it may just be another holiday, they may be in high paying jobs, and some may just have it all.
You don’t know. And what you don’t know can fill a million pages. Because everyone has their own struggles. Their own version of heaven and hell and just because it all seems together- doesn’t mean it is.
Sure while it’s human to feel a little envy- be kind. Quit the judgments.
And know that your kindness may or may not make a world of difference to the other person.
But I can tell you, it will definitely make a world of difference to your life.
Writing as a part of team Blue Lagoon.